This past week was the first week of summer vacation for my
2 youngest boys. My middle son is
leaving elementary school and will entering the scary world of middle
school. My youngest just finished kindergarten. Besides the normal thoughts most
parents have of time flying by and their babies growing up, I found myself this
week reflecting on my boys and asking myself. “When do we start to care what
people think?”
Ethan is 10 going
on 17. Sports and ESPN have
replaced SpongeBob and Nickelodeon. (There is a GOD!) School has become a social event and unfortunately the
classroom is his stage. But also,
all of a sudden he is very aware of what others think. “Dad I don’t want to wear this batman
bathing suit, it is embarrassing.”
His haircut matters, his clothes matter, and what he says and what he
does, all of a sudden matter.
Holly and I
were talking about this and what kind of world this would be if we all lost
that social filters. Completely
open and completely genuine. My
guess is divorce rates would go way down, anxiety would be reduced, and overall
people would be a lot happier and a lot more productive.
This is true especially
in my business. I often joke with
people that if you ever need people to leave your cocktail party, I’m your
guy. I could just walk around and
tell people I sell life insurance.
The room is guaranteed to empty quick!
So, for most of
us, we come up with a different job description. Something a little more glamorous, a little more exciting,
but mainly a little more socially acceptable. I don’t understand why? Selling life insurance is one of the means, but it is not the “end”.
I have a client that I have known for over 20 years. He is close to retirement but we have
become pretty good friends over the years despite the age difference. A couple
of weeks ago he called me with bad news, he has brain cancer. I went and met with him and after a
couple of minutes catching up, he said “DJ, I need you to tell me the truth, what
should I do?”
At the time, I took that as he just didn’t want to hear any
fancy sales pitch, but after about two hours of talking, I realized that was
not what he meant. As I was
leaving, he grabbed me, put his arm around my neck, and said, “DJ I mean it, no
matter how hard it is to say, tell me the truth, tell me what to do, and take
care of my wife and daughter.”
This was one of the toughest, bravest men I have ever met and now he was
scared, worried, and counting on me.
What an unbelievable responsibility. But what a great job I have. How many more people could I have
helped if I was more like Luke though?
We teach our kids so many things, hopefully, so many
positive things. But if you pay
attention, they can teach you some things to. I love seeing Ethan grow up and I am very proud of the
person he is becoming. I will feel
the same way about Luke. But I
hope Luke doesn’t change. I hope
he stays as free spirited as he is now, and I hope that we can all learn from
him.
After all, he learned it in kindergarten. .